I actually thought of one earlier so I’ll use that as an example. My new job is about 40 minutes away from my house. The last job I had is half way between my Mom’s house and my Grandma’s house. I drive past it to get groceries, to visit with family and now to get to my new job.
My thought on this is, I tend to drag negative feelings out of locations that I have negative emotions/experiences from. Okay that parts common. The uncommon part of my thoughts are the ones that attach themselves to my future as well. Such as,
The good thing is, if I ever lose or leave my current job atleast I won’t have to see it everyday being that it’s so far out of the way.
That’s true and all BUT why the hell am I focusing on “if I lose this job.” Why is that important when I haven’t even officially started it yet.
Honestly, I tend to do this alot and it seems like my brain is kindof wired to think like that. Call it thinking ahead or preparing for the future but all I see is negativity and in the most childish way I can explain my feelings towards it…it really sucks.
Another example of this that comes to mind is,
Everything would be better if I were gone.
Not true. Not in the slightest. Do you see what I mean though?
It’s a negative thought attempting to camouflage itself with a few meaningless positive words.
Can anyone else relate to this?
What are some ways you’ve used a pessimistic silver lining?