Posted in 2017, blog, blog topics, employment, happiness, health, life, moods, negative, post a day, quotes, self esteem, self worth, thoughts

Pessimistic Silver Linings

I’m gonna share another bad habit that I have. That habit is using “pessimistic silver linings” to try and make myself feel better. 

I actually thought of one earlier so I’ll use that as an example. My new job is about 40 minutes away from my house. The last job I had is half way between my Mom’s house and my Grandma’s house. I drive past it to get groceries, to visit with family and now to get to my new job. 

My thought on this is, I tend to drag negative feelings out of locations that I have negative emotions/experiences from. Okay that parts common. The uncommon part of my thoughts are the ones that attach themselves to my future as well. Such as, 

The good thing is, if I ever lose or leave my current job atleast I won’t have to see it everyday being that it’s so far out of the way. 

That’s true and all BUT why the hell am I focusing on “if I lose this job.” Why is that important when I haven’t even officially started it yet. 

Honestly, I tend to do this alot and it seems like my brain is kindof wired to think like that. Call it thinking ahead or preparing for the future but all I see is negativity and in the most childish way I can explain my feelings towards it…it really sucks.

Another example of this that comes to mind is, 

Everything would be better if I were gone.

Not true. Not in the slightest. Do you see what I mean though? 

It’s a negative thought attempting to camouflage itself with a few meaningless positive words. 

Can anyone else relate to this?

What are some ways you’ve used a pessimistic silver lining?  

Posted in 2017, blog, blog topics, good vibes, happiness, life, positive, positivity, post a day, thoughts

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Posted in 2017, anger, blog, frustration, happiness, life, mistakes, moods, motivation, negative, positive, post a day, thoughts

Wave Number Two

I’m having trouble today. 

Life is being disrupted, debris is slowly being pushed up the shore. 

Everything that’s getting to me right now based on my Remaining Positive post, are miniscule problems that I’ll forget about sooner than later. 

But, right now. Considering my current predicament, they are massive. 

They are massive and I’m having a very hard time keeping a positive head about it. 

I know it will work out and I know I’m the mean time I will have help but it’s the dawn of these issues that are raising my stress level to a 7 out of 10. 

I could even bring up my Make More Mistakes post and say that mistakes are great, unless someone’s telling you that you made one while dealing with something that already gives you anxiety and frustration. My suggestion is to not add anger to the mix.

So, once again, I’m here giving out advice that I struggle with following. Like I’ve said though, it’s not a switch you can flip. It won’t happen over night.

 But I sure as Hell wish it did. 

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Swimming Thoughts. 

I learned alot while I was in Art School. 

I learned the value of colors and shades. I learned depth and how to truly recreate depth for your audience. I learned alot about other artists, but with all of that knowledge the main thing I learned was: Art should not be disturbed.

An artist should not have to fight over what line needs to be curved. 

An artist should not have to explain why she made a choice to draw or paint something a certain way because you can’t always explain a feeling. 

Art is like fate. You are predetermined to make it to a certain point and you will make the choices to reach that point along the way. You will make mistakes, you will want to quit. 

But you wont. 

I learned that no matter how much something gives you joy, that joy will always cease once it is disturbed.

You can paint a mural and let your mind escape into the wall, not worrying about edges, bumps and scratches. 

Just emptying your mind onto a scarred canvas. Something that once was bare, begging to be filled with light. 

You start sketching your design, slowly widdeling away your eraser. Taking every chance you can to look deeper, weeding out the perfection. Until finally, the mess that was once your mind is displayed on the once bare canvas and the feeling you have is undescribable. 

To me, art shouldn’t be perfect. Art should break barriers. Disrupt the silence. Art should make the artist and viewers feel. 

The viewers should feel every stroke from a paint brush, every dusting of charcoal. Every emotion that the artist layed out on that canvas should be felt without cease. 

Art should not be disturbed. 

Art should disturb. 

                     Cesar A. Cruz

(Pictures created by Author with Adobe Illustrator)

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Remaining Positive. 

Finding a light at the end of a tunnel isn’t an easy process. There are barriers, walls, mountains and even mole hills. You will never be able to wake up one day and suddenly decide that none of the problems that have burdened you for years don’t matter. 

You can’t build yourself up without being broken down a little first. 

This blog is here as a reminder that everything you have struggled with through your entire life has gotten you one step closer to the you that you are meant to be. Cliche’ I know. 

Bring on the slow claps. 

Ridicule, tears, anger, frustration and fear are all building blocks in your life. Once upon a time you were innocent, happy yes, but completely blind to what was making you happy. Any one can gather joy from a possession or an experience but to actually pull happiness from within yourself, that’s a task.

Happiness is not the absence of problems but the ability to deal with them. 

Stacey Charter Quotes

Take a look at all of the struggles you’ve faced thus far;

  • Financial trouble.
  • Family differences. 
  • Drama between friends. 
  • Relationship problems. 
  • Work stress.
  • Self esteem issues.
  • Medical issues. 

And so on. These are all the issues that everyone deals with on a daily basis. 

Now, say you’re sitting in your kitchen, looking over some recent bills. Your electric bill has doubled and you’re not sure why and to add to it your paycheck is late. 

Normally, you would get upset. Spite the electric company for charging you extra. Spite the company you work for for not getting you your check on time. 

But, when you think about it. These are miniscule problems. How many times will you have to get upset over these things before they change? 

The number is truly infinite. These small nuances will never change but rather your reaction to them will. 

Over time you will decide that although this is what’s going wrong, these are all the things that are going right. 

But, as I’ve said; there isn’t a switch you can flip. 

A good quote about this begins and ends very simply. 6 short words and hopefully you understand. 

“Reality continues to ruin my life.”

-Bill Watterson

Reality. Reality is life. Life is hard. 

There’s honestly no doubt about that BUT, even with that being said, not every situation is a crisis. 

Not every downfall is a failure. 

Not every scrape will become a scar. 

Remain positive, remain hopeful, remain strong.